Femdom Spanking is another formed of female supremacy
Spanking is probably the most widely practiced of the BDSM activities. From a playful smack on the buttocks to the traditional American birthday spankings (“one slap for each year and one to grow on”) or as part of the sexual foreplay, lots of people play with spankings even if they think that BDSM games are for perverts. One of those hard to believe data that you can read from time to time in our area (who can take a poll in an activity that most people will not discuss with strangers?), estimates that more than 50% of the people use spanks of some kind as a sexual game. Spankings are our main interest also, as we suppose they are for most of our gentle visitors. As usual, I’m writing as a man punishing a woman, but you can modify it to suit your taste. And remember that this is supposed to be a fantasy among consenting adults.
Sensual (or sexual) spanking
A spanking can be a punishment, it can be fun, and it can be a sensual experience. These are the ones we are going to talk about here: sensual and sexual spankings. A sensual spanking is given for the bottom enjoying the sensations of the spanking in his/her skin. There is no manifest intention of arousal or the purpose of having sexual relations after. The bottom must gradually submit to you and trust you. A sexual spanking, instead, is used as foreplay for lovemaking, the style is freer, and there is intimate touching. If you are expecting to read here the right way to spank, you are in the wrong pages. We believe that there is no right way for spanking as there is no right way for making love (sorry for the missioners). There is no right way for a relationship. Or maybe, the right way is the way that works for both of you. We are going to give you general guidance on principles that have worked for others. Play and experience sensations. As the “s/he”s or “his/hers are difficult to read (and to write), I will write as a male top with a female bottom. Adapt it to your own preferences. And I’m going to write as if this was the only way. Remember it isn’t.
First, take your time. There are no “quickies”. A good spanking can begin days before the actual scene. It begins when you tell your bottom that she is going to be spanked, and you give her the day and the hour. Let the bottom’s mind do its part of the work (and, why not? let your mind play also). Remind her frequently of the appointment. Explain what you plan to do, how she should be dressed, focus her mind in her fate. Use the appropriate language for your kink. (Father to daughter, husband to submissive wife, teacher to pupil, Master to slave, whatever lights you both on). If you do it properly, she (and you) will be very excited from the beginning of the actual spanking. Anticipation is a good part of the game.
And finally, the moment arrived. She is ready (and eager). But you are in no hurry. Make her wait a little with some corner time. You can finish your coffee, read the newspaper, make a last phone call. Then make her come to you, make her ask for her spanking, put her in position. Which position? First of all, we believe that the best way of beginning a sensual spanking is with her on your knees, fully dressed. The OTK position is so intimate, the bodies in contact, the upraised buttocks of the bottom offered, a pleasure for the senses. The bottom should be comfortable, for not being distracted from the spanking by having to worry about not falling, or by a forced position. So maybe you should seat in the middle of a couch, with her in your lap and her upper body and legs resting on the couch. Or in a bed, or any other position that is comfortable for both of you, as you will be a long time in that position. The buttocks should be raised, the legs slightly opened. Take your time while positioning her, make her collaborate on it. Caress softly her body, her hair, her buttocks. The mix of gentle touching and the blows of spanking is very important, because you want her to receive the greatest range of sensations you can give. A sensual spanking is a party in honor of the bottom. The top’s pleasure lies in giving the bottom a time to remember. (What? Is not the Top supposed to be in charge? How can somebody say? BDSM is a game for two, and both are equally important). A sexual spanking, instead, is for both of you.